Bereavement thank you notes can be difficult to write.
Whether you need to say thank you for your sympathy to someone who sent fruit or say thank you to someone who drove in the funeral procession, you can use these tips and samples as a guide.
Change the italicized portions to suit your letter.
For general use
Thank you for your thoughtfulness. Your generosity and support during this difficult time is greatly appreciated.
For attendance and condolence card
This is a very difficult time for all of us. We are saddened by the passing of ____________. Your presence helped to lighten our burden. I was grateful to enjoy your company and hear your lovely memories.
For condolence card only..
Thank you for your thoughtful and kind card of condolence. It was a comfort to the entire family.
Condolence thank you letter response to a heartfelt long letter of sympathy.
Thank you for your heartfelt letter of condolence. It was thoughtful and kind of you to take the time to share your memories of ________ with me. Your words were not only a comfort, but a source of strength for my family and me in this difficult time. Thank you.
For flowers, fruit, donation or gift
Thank you for your thoughtfulness in sending the lovely flowers / generous donation in ________ honor. Your kind thoughts are greatly appreciated.
Thank you for sending the beautiful fruit arrangement. This is a difficult time for all of us. I appreciate your kind support and beautiful symbol of remembrance to _________ . Thank you.
For providing help
Thank you for your thoughtfulness in helping me with the food and guests at the services. I am so grateful for your helping hand in my time of need. Thanks again.
For attendance, fruit, of closer friends
Thank you for attending the services and the lovely fruit. I appreciate you taking the time to come and share in the remembrance of ___________. Although this is a sad time for all of us, I find comfort in knowing how fortunate, he/she and I have been to know you.
Thank you for serving as a pallbearer. You are a reliable and dear friend. Your contributions to the services were a tremendous comfort. I will be eternally grateful. Thank you.
Who receives a thank you note after the funeral?
It is not necessary to a thank you note to every person who came to pay their respects during calling hours. These days, there is a greater understanding of the emotional toll losing a loved one takes.
Handwritten thank you notes after a death are not as expected as they once were. PLEASE do not feel too pressured at this delicate time in your life. It is fine to sign a pre-printed card provided by your funeral home.
However, should you choose to send a handwritten thank you note after a death or funeral according to more traditional
standards, they are intended to be sent within two weeks of services to the following people:
- Anyone who sent flowers, donations, gifts or cards
- Friends and loved ones who provided services such as babysitting, food, or driving in the funeral procession